(Todd A. Smith)
If the allegations against former University of Michigan head football coach Sherrone Moore are true, it might represent the biggest screw up in recent memory.
The Michigan Wolverines fired the married Moore for an alleged inappropriate relationship with a Michigan staff member.
While Moore is not the first to lose his job over an alleged affair with a staff member, he should know that not all adulterers and philanderers are treated equally in the American court of public opinion.
Moore infamously once said that he does not see color because he is married to a White wife.
But brothers must realize that we are not playing under the same rules as our White counterparts.
The scrutiny will often be stronger.
The punishment will often be more severe.
And the chance at redemption will sometimes never come.
Honestly, if some of the allegations are proven true, Moore does not merit a second chance at a college football coaching career.
His alleged actions could merit jail time and the loss of his family and the respect that they had for him.
The TMZ staff reported, “TMZ Sports has obtained dispatch audio stemming from the alleged Sherrone Moore assault…with a woman claiming he attacked her at her home on Wednesday after stalking her for months.
“The audio states a call was made from a Michigan football employee’s address in Ann Arbor, Michigan around 4 PM.
“The employee—who has worked for the Wolverines for years—was the executive assistant to the head coach, the position Moore held until he was fired for having an inappropriate relationship with a fellow staffer.
“It is unclear if the employee was the woman allegedly attacked…or if the incident just so happened to take place at her home…
“Later on in the audio, obtained via Broadcastify, a report is made that a suspect is suicidal…and it’s hard to make it out, but it sounds like it is due to ‘losing his job today.’”
Moore is innocent until proven guilty in the court of law just like all Americans.
But all Americans, especially African-American men, should pay attention to this ordeal and make darn sure that they do not put themselves and their families in this predicament ever again.
From young boys, many men are taught that it is in a man’s nature to hook up with as many women as they possibly can, despite their marital status, family situation or job.
Many men have said that all men cheat.
And some men get criticized by other men if they do not cheat on their significant other.
That reality has become so commonplace that many women are shocked when married or committed men turn down their sexual advances.
Some relationship experts say that people are also willing to ruin their relationships and reputations because there is something exciting about having someone that they should not have.
For many, stable relationships can become boring and monotonous.
Therefore, they miss the chase.
There is excitement in not getting caught.
There is exciting about getting away with something.
But is it worth it?
While all people deal with the temptations of life, I a more concerned about African-American men because we often have a more difficult time getting ahead in life because of racism and bigotry.
Therefore, when one of us gets through those small cracks of society, it hurts more to see them lose everything over something that is not that important.
Unfortunately, it seems like so many African-American men ruin their lives because of lack of sexual discipline.
If men can learn to discipline themselves sexually, they probably will have discipline over other avenues of their lives.
If men can learn to discipline themselves sexually, their enemies would not be able to tempt them or set them up for the okey doke.
We all have our vices whether it is sex, alcohol, drugs gambling, etc.
And all those vices can exist and thrive because of a lack of discipline.
Brothers must learn their vices and try like you-know-what to avoid situations that put them in danger of allowing their vices to put a vice grip on their future.
If a man cannot keep his pants up, he should delete every woman’s phone number out of his cell phone so he cannot call them anymore.
I have noticed that women that I have known in the past unfriend me from social media when they get married.
That is the kind of discipline that men need to have.
If a man is married, avoid being alone with a woman if possible.
If a man has a gambling problem, try not visiting Las Vegas, Atlantic City, New Orleans or Lake Charles, La. so much.
Or, set aside a set amount of money that they want to gamble and have friend hold them accountable if they attempt to gamble more.
If a person has a drinking problem, they should behave differently at open bar parties.
Maybe, have one drink at the party, show people that you attended the party and then exit early.
You can always have a drink at home.
And if you get intoxicated, you can always crawl to your bedroom as my aunt Alfreda would often say.
Allegedly, Moore did not do things to avoid his temptation, costing him his career.
Furthermore, if the allegations are proven true, he compounded his sin with a crime that might cost him his freedom.
Brothers need to stop making short-term decisions that have long-term consequences.
And when they do make mistakes, do not compound it by blaming others and not taking accountability for their own transgressions.
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