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To Women Like Cardi B, What's Good for Goose, Good for Gander

by Todd A. Smith

 

 

Some Women Do Not Really Want Equality


“The state of being equal, especially in status, rights and opportunities,” defines that powerful word, equality.


Women have rightfully protested for gender equality for decades culminating in the #MeToo movement.


But do some people, including many women, actually know what the word equality or equal really means?


In layman’s terms, those words mean to treat someone the same.


Not better.


Not worse.


The same.


Nevertheless, the news of rap star Cardi B admitting to drugging and robbing men during her days as an exotic dancer did not get the same vitriolic response as Bill Cosby’s conviction for drugging and raping women in the 1970s, 1980s and 1990s.


After news of Cosby’s transgression finally got the mainstream attention that it should have gotten decades ago, the punishment for his crimes came in swiftly in the court of public opinion.


Comedy concerts got cancelled or did not do as well at the box office as previous concerts from prior years.


Reruns of “The Cosby Show” disappeared from many television networks.


An upcoming sitcom starring Cosby and Phylicia Rashad of “The Cosby Show” fame got scrapped.


And Cosby ended up in jail, with his career permanently stained, even though he has maintained his innocence.


No, I am not defending Cosby and his actions.


I believe that he is a serial rapist and deserves to serve his jail time no matter how much I like “The Cosby Show.”


But where is the same punishment for a female rapper who brazenly admits to her past crimes?


The statute of limitations cannot possibly have run out on her crimes if they did not run out for some of Cosby’s transgressions.


The #MeToo movement was necessary.


Men have to learn how to respect women.


But how can women demand that men respect women, when that same respect is not given to us.


Yes, men face physical and sexual abuse at the hands of women.


Yes, men find themselves victimized by sexual harassment in the workplace at the hands of women.


But where are the ruined careers when the alleged perpetrators are female and the alleged victims are male?


Throughout the #MeToo movement, many men lost their careers and reputations just because a woman said that he abused or harassed her.


But when a woman owns up to her own crimes and does not shy away from her criminal past, she gets a pass.


So, I guess people only believe women when they are talking bad about men.


Women should be ignored when they talk about their own sins.


I get it.


It does not fit the definition of equality.


But equality is not something that some women want.


Many women want equality when it benefits them.


However, many of those same women want preferential treatment when it benefits them.


I am all for treating women better than men.


I was raised to be chivalrous and to treat women like queens on a pedestal.


But do not call that equality.


That is preferential treatment.


More matter of fact, this is discrimination against men if we really get technical.


Cardi B has changed since she committed these crimes and admits the error of her ways.


The rapper from The Bronx, N.Y. said, “I made the choices I did at the time because I had very limited options. I was blessed to have been able to rise from that but so many women have not.”


She concluded by stating, “I have a past that I can’t change we all do.”


While I applaud Cardi B for admitting to her past transgressions and learning from her mistakes, there are many men still behind the penitentiary walls who have committed similar crimes.


Very few care about how much they have changed.


Very few care about them learning from their mistakes and encouraging other men to not follow in their footsteps.


One crucial mistake in life has cost many brothers their freedom, and very few judges care about the excuses that they had when they committed their crimes.


If society locks a man up for something, the same society should lock a woman up for doing the same thing.


No, I am not advocating for Cardi B to go to jail.


I do not want anyone to go to jail.


I do not want to see anyone’s career ruined for any reason.


But how can America have one set of laws for men and another set of laws for women, and really think that symbolizes equality?


I once had a well-known Houston politician ask me if I thought female teachers should go to jail for having sex with underage students just like male teachers.


The question shocked me coming from someone who carries herself like a feminist.


But that mentality is more prevalent amongst feminists than one would believe.


The definition of feminism is supposed to be the equality of the sexes.


Furthermore, I got into a serious debate with a college classmate on Facebook on whether women should be forced to register for the military draft in America.


She said that forcing women to register for the military draft was a disgusting idea.


I agreed.


I do not want to see women forced into wars when there are able-bodied men to fight.


But I also told her women couldn’t have their cake and eat it too.


One of my high school classmates said women couldn’t pick and choose when they want equality and when they want preferential treatment.


Either they want equal treatment, for better or worse, or they do not.


My argument with women when it comes to the military draft is simple.


Men have to register for the Selective Service when they reach 18.


The only reason women were not forced to register for the Selective Service is because women were not allowed in combat.


Over the last few years, women fought rightfully so and won the right to fight in military combat alongside their male counterparts.


Many women said that they were just as good as their male counterparts and they were absolutely correct.


Those women have three times as much bravery and skill as I do.


Furthermore, many female civilians championed women’s right to fight in combat.


It was a beautiful thing.


But now that women can fight in military combat, what is a legitimate argument for women not registering for the Selective Service?


If women are just as good as men, which they definitely are, they should have all of the same responsibilities as men.


My college classmate said what if women do not want to register for the Selective Service?


I responded that many men do not want to register for the Selective Service.


But we do it anyway because that is our responsibility as American citizens.


Now that the genders are supposedly equal, both genders need to take equal responsibilities.


If we muted R. Kelly and Michael Jackson, we have to mute Cardi B.


If anyone says any different, they do not really believe in equality.



This article was published on Friday 29 March, 2019.
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